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Visualize Your True Authentic Self


Success is hiding in plain sight

Navigating life in the 21st century is more complex and more potentially frustrating than ever before.

As a listener to The Mountain Top Podcast, you’re a successful man of high character who is all about excellence and living life to the fullest.

But consider the irony of how we handle relationships. In this society we educate ourselves for years to prepare for a successful career. We spend hours at the gym and on improving our game.

But when it comes to gaining influence within our social circle, crossing adventurous items of our “bucket list” and (especially) finding the right woman to share our amazing life with, the vast majority of us wait around passively…enduring heartbreaking failures along the way, and eventually waking up to far less than we hoped for.

That’s where coaching comes in.  You don’t have to piece together success on your own over a long, painstaking period of time.  Every hyper-successful man has a coach…a mentor.

Mountain Top Coaching puts you on the fast-track, taking months or even years off of the learning curve and empowering you to boldly clear obstacles, break through limiting beliefs and enjoy the results you want…all more quickly than you may even think possible.

Get The Girl And Live The Dream
I've been in the field of psychotherapy and consulting for 55 years. I have just met Scot recently but he is the most genuine, creative, likable and successful person I've ever met in the coaching field. I can't wait to talk to him again.Homer McDonald (

So How Does It All Work?


“What will you do for me exactly?”

You have your own unique goals. We focus on you as an individual, empowering you so your dreams become reality.

We impart knowledge directly and encourage you all the while. You’ve got to hear what your friends won’t ever tell you, but from someone you know has your best interests at heart.

Such is our gift and our passion. That’s why you’ll always work with Scot and/or Emily or another established, professional coach of your choice.

Coaching is not about deconstructing or re-living the past and picking up the pieces. After all, you’re not broken, you’re motivated. By answering “how” instead of “why”, you can count on looking toward the future with well-defined goals in mind. That’s why every Ten-Plus coaching program comes with a unique planning session at the beginning, during which we’ll build a customized plan of action together with you. Otherwise, if you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time.

Best of all, a character-based approach offers you a genuine, life-changing road map rather than just a quick fix. It’s all about deserving what you want.

We’ll also help remove roadblocks, give you a winning mindset, unwire any bad programming from the past and–importantly–give you our undivided attention in a world where that’s increasingly rare.

Along the way, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by forward-thinking innovations such as MP3 archives of your coaching sessions, video coaching options, interactive assignments between sessions and the built-in ability to contact your coach at any time whenever questions or situations arise.

“Who do you work with?”

If we were to hold a party for everyone we’ve ever coached, you’d be amazed and impressed by how smart, successful and interesting everyone in the room is.  The names of several would likely be familiar to you already.

The vast majority of the men we work with are accomplished, high-quality people of character with quite a lot going for them. What they have in common is a sincere desire to find the right track in life and/or the right woman to share the journey with, and they’re extremely motivated.

Some are recently divorced and determined to move on in the right direction. Many come to us because both Scot and Emily have ex-spouses who suffer from mental illness, and their stories are similar. Others have prioritized their career or other dreams above finding their significant other.

Still others are simply ready to handle life more skillfully than they ever have before.  They want to eliminate shyness, live with more purpose, go on more adventures and/or leave a more powerful legacy.  Some want to leave the work-a-day rat race behind and savor the true freedom of location-independent entrepreneurship.  Others aspire to building thriving coaching practices of their own.

Whatever the next frontier is, we take men all over the world from where they are today to where they want to be.

“What if I’m in a relationship that’s struggling?”

We work with men and women who are in long-term relationships almost every day, including plenty of couples. Like them, you’ll find that coaching is a powerful alternative when counseling just doesn’t cut it.

Sure, Scot and Emily been together for nearly twelve blissful years, so that track record speaks for itself. But just as importantly, we can impart the secrets to a happy relationship to you while helping you get past rough patches or remove potential hazards along the way.

Even if you’re at wit’s end and considering divorce, definitely consult us before ending your relationship. You definitely have options in the realm between counseling and divorce court. Coaching is all about actionable steps and looking toward the future.

“Does it matter where I live?”

Not at all! We’re in contact with men all over the world including the United States, Canada, Latin America, UK, Europe, India, Australia, New Zealand, the Pacific Rim and the Middle East.

The magic of Skype, WhatsApp and broadband video makes it all possible, and we’ve found time and again that success is by no means limited by geography.

If you happen to live in Central or South Texas and would like to work with us live and in-person, that’s certainly a great idea. Those who live elsewhere often fly to San Antonio to for coaching as well.

“What makes you different?”

While some coaches may argue for either the male or female perspective, we give you both. As a happily married couple who each enjoyed a respectively vibrant, healthy dating life prior to finding each other, Scot and Emily truly “walk the talk”.  The entire coaching team at X & Y Communications has been hand-picked with those same priorities in mind.  We all live what we teach, proving every day that what we do flat-out works. We don’t just offer you theoretical ideas, we empower you with actionable, real-world steps to success.

You can rest assured that your coach is highly experienced and effective.   Whether it’s Scot, Emily or a specialist of your choice, you’ll know who your coach is by name before you even sign up.  You’ll never be handed down to a junior “surrogate”.  We don’t believe in credibility by association, and neither should you.

Importantly, you’re also backed by the track record of eleven continuous years of consistently empowering men and women all over the world.  Over that time we’ve become a globally-recognized presence. Everyone on our team is widely recognized as being among the very best in the world at what we do.

It all adds up to an unprecedented level of peace of mind, knowing that you’re working with proven, professional experts.

“Can you help me with my online business?”

As we operate a highly successful Internet-based business, we’re often asked this question.

Yes…you can come to us specifically for business coaching, and we’ll deliver stunning results for you.  We coach entrepreneurs to greatness on a regular basis.

Importantly, you can also custom design your coaching programs to be a hybrid of sorts, incorporating sessions on entrepreneurship, dating, relationships and/or other areas. As always, ask and it shall be done.

“This sounds great… So why am I feeling nervous?”

That’s only natural. For many, the status quo has become a daily habit. That means that circling today on the calendar as the day you start getting what you want can be intimidating at first.

The biggest concern we hear from both men and women is that they’ll work with us wholeheartedly, only to experience minimal, if any measurable results. For them, that would be more painful than never having tried at all.

We fully understand that fear, and that’s where it’s up to us to do our job. After having worked with hundreds of men and women directly, we recognize your potential and are experienced experts at getting results. Remember…in nearly twelve years nobody we’ve worked with has ever failed.

Start Living The Dream

I just wanted to give a heartfelt thank you for improving my life in very, very profound ways.

Please know that I have the highest respect and regard for you and your lovely wife!

Please keep up the wonderful, profound, great and honest work that you do.Robert (Stockholm, Sweden)

“What happens if I go for it–put in the time, effort and resources–and yet, in the end I still don’t see results? I’ll feel even worse than if I hadn’t done anything at all.”

We realize how easy it is to put off coaching, even when you know deep down how profoundly it will change your life.  Many men stay on the fence for one simple reason: fear.

It’s kind of like skydiving. You want to feel the rush, cross it off of your “bucket list” and say you’ve conquered it.

Jumping out of the plane is by far the hardest part.  When the door to the airplane opens, you’re consumed with what might happen if the chute doesn’t deploy.

But once you go for it you’ll feel the exhilaration of the adventure and the thrill of conquering your trepidation…especially after you land safely.

So you’re left with a choice.

You can find the courage and jump, rejoicing with your friends once you float safely to the ground.

Or…you can stay on the plane and land with it, only to look on in disappointment and frustration as your friends who went for it rejoice together.

Your coach is a lot like a skydiving instructor. Even though this may be your first jump, the coach is a seasoned professional who has done this countless times. As such, your coach can help you conquer the fear of the unknown, encouraging you toward greatness…all the while confidently knowing you’ll get fantastic results like others before you.

Be A Legendary Man

My best friend came to visit me this week. He met my new girlfriend and remarked not only on how cute she was, but on the chemistry between her and I. Trust me, before Ten-Plus I would have laughed in anyone's face if they told me that would happen.Frank (Boston, MA)

What can I expect?

  • Work directly with Scot, Emily or another globally-recognized coach of your choice
  • Your plan of action will be custom-tailored to your specific needs.
  • Scheduling is at your convenience.
  • You can count on experienced, respectful professionalism.
  • Rest assured knowing we've gotten results for hundreds of men worldwide.
  • Your privacy is assured.
  • You'll see real-world results in record time. Satisfaction is 100% guaranteed.
  • Take The First Step Today

    Now is the time to kiss mediocrity goodbye…forever. You never, ever have to settle for less than complete fulfillment of your most ambitious goals and wildest dreams.

    Your twenty-five minute introductory session is free of charge. This brief but powerful call will help you pinpoint what exactly you want, identify what’s holding you back and give you newfound inspiration to be the great man you were born to be.

    Plan on an easy-going, low-pressure discussion. Whether coaching with us is a good fit for you or not, we’re glad you reached out. Like hundreds of guys over the last decade have found out, if it’s right for you…you’ll know it.

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    Scot McKay

    In the ’80s and early ’90s Scot McKay was working with “at risk” kids. From there he built a wildly successful corporate career, meeting with C-level executives, winning top sales awards and working on billion-dollar projects.

    But when a difficult divorced ransacked Scot’s world he hit rock bottom. He set out to understand women and find out what attracted them. His results were so powerful that his friends insisted that he reveal his secrets.

    Ten years later Scot is one of the most recognized and effective coaches for men on the global stage. Now a four-time Amazon #1 bestselling author, over 400 media outlets have consulted him, including ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox, BBC, MTV, Lifetime, Men’s Health, Elite Daily and The Wall Street Journal.