Episode 478 – Comedy Builds Confidence

Co-Host: Clifford Myers - Comedian, The Other Comedy Company

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My first-time guest and new friend Clifford Myers is more than just a comedian. He’s a self-proclaimed “comedy practioner”. That means he doesn’t just tell jokes, he works with individuals and even large companies to help people use comedy to do better in every aspect of their lives. This makes him the perfect guy to talk about how comedy and humor can help skyrocket our confidence and success with women.

This far-ranging (and yes, funny) discussion hits the ground running, talking about how most guys try to use humor in a misguided and indeed self-serving way with women, which tends to backfire. After all, that’s not very confidence-inspiring, now is it?

Then we turn our attention toward how we as men in particular tend to take ourselves too seriously in general, and how that can be disastrous to our chances with women. What’s the difference between being funny and having a sense of humor? Since we’re talking about comedy here, do we have to put on some sort of stage act every time we’re with a woman in order to make her laugh?

As a weird thought experiment, what if we were to go into character when making women laugh, like Emo Phillips or Gilbert Gottfried? Obviously that wouldn’t work, but why? How important is self-awareness and “reading the room” to all of this?

What are the exact kinds of humor that really demonstrate confidence and attract women? And what other kinds of comedy work even better after you’ve already connected with a woman?

How do we as men fall into the “no, but…” trap? And what’s the most important element of comedy, especially if you’re coming off as a confident man? Overall, a great show replete with TONS of comedy references throughout.